I saw a study that says 70% of divorces are initiated by the woman. What does that mean?
I’ve had men tell me this means most divorces are the fault of the woman. Of course, that’s ridiculous. If a man beats or cheats without end or remorse he is clearly the problem. If his wife gets tired of it and leaves, he is the reason for the divorce. I’m not suggesting this is why all women divorce, I’m just making the point that who files doesn’t prove anything about who is at fault.
What I do think the 70% figure strongly suggests is that more women than men are unhappy with their marriages. People who are happy with or okay with their marriage don’t file for divorce. People who file for divorce are unhappy with their marriages. Of course, that unhappiness could be the result of the person’s own selfishness, not the selfishness of their spouse.
The other thing the 70% number says to me is a whole lot of husbands either don’t know or don’t care their wife is unhappy. If he knew and cared he would try to do something about it. This idea is backed up by the number of men who are honestly shocked when their wife files for divorce.
Is your wife as happy/satisfied with your marriage as you are? Are you sure about that?