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Attitudes towards interracial dating

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'm curious to know what the prevailing attitude is on interracial dating. By interracial, I mean someone outside of your culture (so a Chinese and Korean couple fits within this category, for example, even though they can argue that they're both East Asian). Notice I said dating and not marriage. It's harder to talk about marriage since it's more of a done deal (you might not like your sister marrying a guy outside of your culture, but she loves him, so you approve). With just dating, everyone seems to have an opinion. But before you answer my question --- please answer it towards your society's perception on interracial dating. You can of course add your own personal opinion, but I'm more interested in the general attitude of the people around you.

The reason why I'm posting this is because I've noticed that there seems to be a lot of generalizing on these boards. Especially when it comes to topics such as mixed couples. It's important for us to take a step back and understand that although we're all Asians, the society we live in stereotypes in different ways. Therefore the stereotypes about dating a white, black, latino, person in the Philippines may be very different from dating that same person if you're from a different part of the world.

Since we're all living in different parts of the world, how are general attitudes towards interracial dating?

 
Posted : 28/03/2019 2:34 pm
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I'll go first.

- My Filipino cousins tried being racist towards my then Vietnamese bf. It made no sense whatsoever because 2 of them ended up settling down with Vietnamese girls. Perhaps when I was younger, people leaned towards their own culture more, but as everyone has gotten older, no one really cares. I would say that the prevailing attitude is generally more in favor of mixed Asian couples, than that of someone not Asian. It's more about similar cultures than anything else. However, I'm not going to deny that there isn't outright racism - dating a latino or white guy seems to still be preferred over dating a black guy. I find this sad and hard to admit since it's friggen 2016  but yes, I still sense it among the older generation. I'm mainly generalizing for my hometown in SoCal, btw.

- When I was in Japan with my then European bf, an ice cream parlor within the airport refused to serve us!!

- When we were in S.Korea, everyone treated us quite well. However, my white girl friends dating Korean guys had a harder time. Some old scary grandpas associate being blonde as being a prostitute! It wasn't uncommon to hear of scary things happening in broad daylight - a few of my friends got outright grabbed just by walking into a grocery store.

 
Posted : 28/03/2019 2:35 pm
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- I used to be very close to Japanese expats living in Hawaii for school and they described how common it was for young Japanese college girls to end up with old white men in Oahu. They said the old guys took advantage of the girls since they often didn't have any friends near them and wasn't used to their surroundings. BTW, these girls were beaaautiful! It boogles your mind!

- In Sweden, people automatically assume that every Asian girl is from Thailand. It's a very common vacation destination even families go there (not just single old men). The sight of very old men with young Thai gfs isn't uncommon. If you're an Asian girl in Sweden, some may automatically assume you're married to an old man and/or you're Thai.

 
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I thought of another one:

- My Indonesian friend told me that everyone in her hometown thought French guys were perverts! Apparently, a lot of perverted Frenchies vacationed there looking for local Indo gfs. In SoCal, French guys were pretty much drooled over by everyone. Their accent is adorable and were so polite and conscientious! So there isn't a negative stigma (at all) associated with dating them. Definitely not the same type of French guys.

 
Posted : 28/03/2019 2:36 pm
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Asian cultures would deemed me a whore, which I am but still, for dating outside of my ethnics.  I literally have dated all kind of men; African-American, Colombian, Puerto Rican, Cuban, Korean,  White American. I haven't dealt being in a relationship in Asian countries, but if they're not white looking, it would be the most looked down upon especially in Cambodia and Thailand. Interracial relationships would be talked about in either positive or negative light if the man is white looking, they could say he's just like young Asian girls or she married him for money, etc. However in Thailand, if the man respects the culture, the relationship will blossom. In Cambodia, IMO the girls there tend to be ashamed of their culture and will try to whitewash the culture for their spouse.  Disclaimer, I'm Laotian and Cambodian with familial ties in the Isan region in Thailand. 

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